Discover the 24 "tasks" that a cheater must perform in order for you to heal from an affair Hello friend, we're Linda and Doug and we are one of the lucky
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If you’re experiencing the pain of infidelity you’re probably a little bit skeptical of those claims as you may feel that the hurt, painful images and anger you are now experiencing will never fade away.
We’re here to tell you that they can and it’s very possible that you can recover and heal from infidelity, but…
…it’s not going to be easy and it’s going to take the commitment and hard work of each of you in order to do so.
During the three or so years that we’ve been involved with our blog we have noticed hundreds, if not thousands of betrayed spouses who are stuck in their recovery and in their healing from an affair.
This feeling of being stuck might happen several months or even years after the discovery of infidelity.
From experience and interaction with others in the same boat, we have been able to identify certain behaviors on the part of the cheater that can either lead to success or failure at surviving infidelity.
This is not easy for those unfaithful individuals with the best of intentions, and is certainly more difficult – if not impossible – for those who just don’t “get it.”
In our situation, we were recovering nicely. The thoughts of the affair didn’t invade Linda’s mind nearly as much as they once did. The triggers were occurring far less frequently and when they did, their effects were minimal.
Now, in our case, it wasn’t as if he wasn’t trying hard – and even Linda said he was doing the right things…
Most of the time however, the stuck feeling occurs because the cheater is helping very little – if at all – during the recovery process.
In a nutshell, the most prevalent underlying reason for this feeling of being stuck is the lack of consistent help and effort from the cheater to do the things that the betrayed spouse needs them to do in order for them to be able to recover and heal.
It seems like such an easy thing to do, but for some reason the cheater either refuses to give the betrayed spouse what it is they’re most longing for or they simply just don’t know what it is they need to be doing on a consistent basis.
Through our work with other couples we became so frustrated from hearing story after story of cheaters who refuse to help at all with their partner’s affair recovery and healing, wondering why their partner just can’t “get over it,” that we decided to do something about it…
Before we continue, let us just say that it’s very difficult to be labeled as a cheater. The cheater has to accept that label before they can begin the healing and recovery process.
If you are a cheater and are still living in denial that what you did was justified or not as bad as you are ready to admit to yourself and your spouse, then these steps will not be productive.
…we all know that most cheaters will never take the initiative to buy it, so it’s more than likely up to the betrayed spouse to do so. (You are to be commended if you are the exception to this rule!)
Oh, and it’s also from a male cheater’s (Doug) point of view, though it will certainly benefit the female cheater as well.
The same issues tend to exist whether the cheater is male or female. You will just need to apply a woman’s perspective on things.
It is written with the cheater in mind, but this guide is appropriate for the betrayed spouse as well because she can understand the strategies and action steps as they relate to her own situation and create a personal guide or road map towards healing and recovery.
There are also many victims of infidelity who have no idea what it will take to get them through the healing process.
That being the case, this program will help that person become more aware of what she needs the cheater to do – even though the cheater may not be willing to…
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